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Are the rooms safe? © recovery discovery llc
I can tell you this... the sickest of the sick are there
trying to get better. A good friend was speaking with me
today she said she was quite upset at what she was seeing
at her home group. She felt it was not as safe a place as
it was before. She felt people were preying on each other.
The most danger in the rooms seems to come from these types
both male and female early in recovery.
One day at the close of the meeting as everyone held hands
I heard..
“Let us always remember to pray for one another not prey on
one another”
The rooms of recovery are for recovery, not for dating. As
alcoholics we are all codependent.... after all, how else
could we have been that dysfunctional? We are addicts and
many rationalize their loneliness. We all suffer from that
hole in the soul, yet it is not a finite cure we need but a
divine one.
Sick people who chase other sick people around the rooms
are not helping themselves. It is simply old behavior going
round and round. If we think about it every single
relationship for the active addict / alcoholic has crashed
and burned so why is anything going to be different now
with nine months under our belts?
Time takes time... be patient or you may become one!
Sometimes I even see people with “time” doing this. The
truth is, some are really much sicker than others. They
still are yet to understand what recovery is about. So....
what to do...certainly as a sponsor we should correct them
so that they do not hurt others or themselves. Let's face
it folks sometimes emotional addictions can be just as bad
or even worse!
We all need to know how to use the rooms for what they are
intended...as a classroom for recovery. There are plenty of
fish in the sea outside the rooms. If you are single, wait
for a least a year before you even try a relationship. Work
on yourself. The problem lies within. Your answer is not
outside yourself. Get a same sex sponsor that has sponsor
and be willing to seek the only real remedy.... your
personal divine connection through the steps!
Remember we are all codependent. Give the newcomer a break
they are just trying to find their way as well.
Be helpful not hurtful!
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